Being a trans means I became a part of another minority group, aka the LGBTQIA+ community. But what I didn’t know was that I would also feel like a minority within the LGBTQ community.
I like the acronym SOGIE because it tells how different LGBTQ can be: Sexual Orientation and Gender Identity and Expression.
Being LGB (lesbian gay bisexual) means you have a different sexual orientation, but being T (trans) means I have a different gender identity.
I’ve been to generic queer social events and sadly I didn’t feel like I belonged there. Gay, lesbian and bisexual people were all very nice and welcoming, but we still live very different lives, except the fact that cis-hetero-normative people don’t get us.
I do see more non-binary and androgynous people in public and that’s been nice. They may not be medically transitioning, but we may go through a bit more similar problems.
Maybe that might be why t4t is not that uncommon. This is a unique experience and it’s hard to expect many others to understand it.
One day, I’ll talk about being a lesbian while being a trans, which feels a minority within trans community.